From My Pen...

I'm a journaler. I like to journal about life, love and my Lord. I also love technology but busyness keeps me from being as tech-savvy as I'd like to be. This blog gives me a chance to play computer and learn a few new tricks along the way; all the while serving as my 21st century journal. A journaler is just a writer by another name and writing defines me almost as much as my faith does. I've always had a desire to blend my faith and my writing into a ministry of encouragement. This blog gives birth to that desire. Be blessed as you read these weekly devotions taken from the pages of my old-fashioned journal.

Saturday, 30 April 2016

"In Double Harness"


Wilfred Grenfell told of his marriage to Lady Grenfell in the essay entitled “In Double Harness.” What a fitting description of marriage! 
April was pronounced Pastor’s Wife Appreciation Month in the church my husband pastors and I have been honoured, in more ways than I can count, with everything from extravagant gifts to sweet treats to simple pleasures to hugs and deep encouragement – every one of which has been a blessing to me. In addition to being a Pastor’s Wife I am also a pastor of a small neighbouring assembly and my hubby has been the quintessential Pastor’s Spouse – strong, supportive, encouraging, helpful, practical – standing by me without fail. Scripture dubs woman as man’s suitable helpmate and I trust I have fulfilled my role adequately. You will have to ask Wayne if I have succeeded. However, my hubby has proven that not only a woman can be a suitable helpmate. We are a team and if I am anything special it is because my team mate has my back and makes me a better player in life and ministry.
I have been privileged to have walked alongside this man for over twenty plus years of ministry teamwork; officially co-pastoring with him for several of those years. As I read Grenfell’s essay again today I could not help but compare his closing remarks to my own marriage. I have always admired Grenfell and am intrigued by anything referencing him. Wayne calls him “my hero” but, truth be told, Wayne Baker is more a hero in my eyes than the great Grenfell. Never a more selfless man ever walked in shoe leather than my real life hero. I quote one to highlight the other. The quote is lengthy but worth the read…
“No thinker can believe for a moment that the worthwhileness of life is what we get out of it. No one who enters…marriage, possessed of that spirit will find…success…An inevitable cause of failure of all human ideals is selfishness. Call it sin if you wish: I am no stickler for labels. Whatever you style it, ‘self first’ is the negation of the raison d’ĂȘtre of our being on earth at all…marriage, to be a success must be entered with the will to succeed, as must faith in man and even in God. The incidents of the day must be looked at in due perspective, not as to their reaction of myself…but the effect on the other half – the team. Only one selfish player in the best team on earth can lose the game if he ‘hogs the ball’ when he should pass it to give another player the glory of the touchdown. We two, anyhow, are signing this chapter together. When we began, we believed marriage to be a part of God’s plan for men’s and women’s happiness on earth, enabling them to help the world just so much more, since union means more strength and wisdom and courage. Now that we are on the last lap and the final goal seems not so far away, we are holding hands closer than ever, confident that the final experience of life also will be easier to face thus, and indeed become only another joyous venture, when these worn-out bodily machines of ours shall be discarded, and on the other side we shall work again, in new fields, together.”
Today, as April concludes, and I have been honoured for my work I am choosing to pass the ball and give the other player on my team the glory of the touchdown. If I am a Pastor’s Wife of any merit it is because I am the wife of such a fine pastor and man of God. I honour you, Wayne Baker and I am overjoyed, as well, as proud, to do life and ministry with you.